November 16, 2008

Dating Advice . . .

From R. Stacy McCain:

Marriage is a great deal for men, much better than being single, provided you get the right woman. The whole point of dating is to find that one woman. But young men are so damned superficial and selfish nowadays, and caught in a passive-aggressive loop, alternating between callous womanizing and self-pity.

Good women are much easier to find than good men. Over the years in Washington, I'd meet nice young single women and think, "Wow, I really ought to try to introduce her to a nice guy." And then I'd realize, "Wait a minute -- this is Washington, DC. There are no nice guys here."

Guys, let me give you a clue: Your low self-esteem is poisoning the well. You figure that any girl who actually likes you must be a desperate loser. So you ignore or disparage the women who are actually available, while chasing after women who hate you. You are only interested in super-beautiful women, because having a super-beautiful woman validates your own attractiveness. And yet you become angry at her demand that you bring something to the table to validate her.

Do you see the self-defeating vicious cycle you're setting up for yourself? Try this: Just forget about looks. Hang out with some fat chicks and try to learn to enjoy women as human beings, rather than as status symbols or as a means to an end.

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1 Thanks for your opinion, good luck on changing human nature.

Posted by: Sejanus at November 17, 2008 02:16 AM (vQmYW)

2 provided you get the right woman Well, there's always a catch, isn't there.

Posted by: I R A Darth Aggie at November 17, 2008 07:49 AM (1hM1d)

3 hang out with some fat chicks In other words, teach yourself to not be a superficial douchenozzle by deliberately choosing friends based on a superficial physical attribute. Interesting!

Posted by: apotheosis at November 17, 2008 09:35 AM (xWk3U)

Posted by: Mikal at November 17, 2008 11:05 AM (C2XOb)

5 It's never been easier. Show them your "Sarah Palin 2012" button and exclude any woman that doesn't think it's a great idea.

Posted by: Darrell at November 17, 2008 01:19 PM (H4h6i)

6 I really wanted to comment on this one because women like to tell men that we are "bad" because we like to have an attractive female. What is always left out is the vast majority of women that are looking for "Mr. Rich". "I will not date a man unless he makes $100,000 a year or he comes from a rich family." This is something that is out there and affects men who are good men that are simply looking for that "good woman". I submit that the gold digging is much more likely and damaging than what men do.

Posted by: Mere at November 18, 2008 06:21 AM (9pF7c)

7 I think it's unfair to disparage all men in D.C. Women need to allow themselves to be attracted to the "good men" and not the flashy, charismatic guys. It takes two to tango

Posted by: Susan at November 18, 2008 09:15 AM (2B6CO)

8 If you think the men in and around DC are bad now, wait until more of them become Democrats in January...

Posted by: John at November 18, 2008 04:40 PM (zmiQf)

9 You humans are always thinking with your lizard brains and focused on the wrong Stuff. Pay no attention to looks, EXCEPT fat. Run like hell from fat chicks. They can go find a husband at Wal-Mart. 99% of the time fat people are LAZY and self-indulgent. She's not fat like that because she goes deer hunting in her spare time, dude. One requirement for a good woman is that she has to have a LIFE of her OWN - i.e. *something* she's interested in. It doesn't matter what it is, but if she doesn't, YOU'LL quickly become the only thing she's interested in, and she'll end up making your life HELL trying to control you. Also, somewhere between the front door and the bedroom, you're going to have to TALK to her. Unless you like talking about airhead bullshit (in which case YOU'RE an airhead and are going to deserve the stupid sow she's going to be after 20 years of marriage), GET ONE WITH SOME BRAINS. The best way to do this is to find one at a *college*. (I prefer the Art Department, but YMMV) or somewhere else that INTELLIGENT women hang out. I.e. if you pick one up in a bar, don't whine and expect sympathy when you end up with the aforementioned Dumb Sow. It REALLY helps to have some sort of initial brick-wall filtering mechanism, too. For insatance... *I* like to find out right away what kind of music a woman likes, and then run like hell, no second chances, if it isn't the right kind. Not having voted for OBlahBlahBlahBlah in the latest election would probably provide a useful brick-wall filter at this point, (and is a good gauge of intelligence as well.) The point is, the earlier you decide to run like hell, the easier it is to get away in time. Actually, a filtering mechanism is good to have for filtering out humans *in general*, not just those you're thinking about sleeping with. Like, I make a subtle wisecrack and if it goes right past them, they're outta here.) That doesn't mean you shouldn't fall in love at first sight, of course - it just has to be for the right *reasons*. Like that spaceship captain in the "Firefly" series - he fell head-over-heels for the whorehouse madam when she showed him her *guns*. (Now, THERE's a guy with his head screwed on straight.) I'm not sure there are ANY intelligent people in DC, though. Maybe there's a refuge for intelligence in there somewhere, but it sure as hell doesn't look like it to us rednecks out here in the hinterlands.. I always thought that group of Republican clowngressmen , had the right idea when they formed a prayer group the instant they got to Wastington - about all you *could* do if you got stuck in *that* schumerhole would be to *pray*.

Posted by: Merinas van der Lubbe at November 20, 2008 09:57 AM (Cpvun)

10 "You humans?" ...Talk about setting yourself apart from the herd. Worf: "Nice legs!" (Everybody looks at him, pause) "For a huumaan..."

Posted by: Darrell at November 21, 2008 12:34 AM (z3JME)

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