1 Yes it is. Anger makes it about you. Sadness focuses on the deceased. And those they left behind. We all may feel the anger well when our prayers haven't been answered or we didn't get the outcome we expect. But then we realize that none of this is in our hands, under our control. So we concentrate on what made that person special to us, and vow to never forget. And maybe add some of those special traits to our repertoire so that our friend will live far after we are gone when others, too, remember us.

2 Edna St. Vincent Millay, on the other hand, was just a hothead. Anger was her response to everything! Kiss her--bam! Pour her a glass of wine--bam! Give her a Pulitzer Prize for poetry, and she complains about the wait and the inherent sexism of the process. They named a hospital in New York after her, you know. Consider her words-- ..."Detestable race, continue to expunge yourself, die out." ..."Convert again into explosives the bewildered ammonia and the distracted cellulose..." ..."Convert again into putrescent matter drawing flies..." ..."...expand, expunge yourself, die out" And that's when she was just asked if she wanted fries with her hamburger!

3 OTOH - if you don't want to be preached at... No, you aren't the only person to have that reaction - it's perfectly normal.

4 @Darrell-- "My candle burns at both ends; It will not last the night. But oh my foes--and oh, my friends-- It gives a lovely light." @Kathy-- Thanks.

5 I love Edna's work! Most really holds up well. Of course she was named AFTER the hospital and since she was the second winner(of all time) of the Pulitzer for poetry, she did not offer any protest. But I knew YOU would know that. But thanks for ESVM's poem, regardless! One good thing deserves another as you will see. Or would have if your system wouldn't have eaten it! And you did ask if it was normal to be angry when people die and I did say it was...But normal is not always as it should be.